The purpose of courtship is getting to know one another through a well- nurtured relationship, exposure and communication in order to prove the proposed marriage convictions within the context of time.
Time is an asset to any relationship. ‘So time is an asset to your courtship relationship. The focus of courting should not be on the flesh or mere physical attractiveness. You must get to know the person, not the person’s body.
Don’t misplace your priorities and be too much concerned about sex. You must build your relationship on the expression of agape love and not just body ties. Adding value to one another should be your foremost priority.
Nurturing your relationship will involve striving for love and understanding during your courtship and even after your marriage. You must seek to understand your intended spouse, as this will ensure the development of a successful marriage, Good understanding will always procure the favour of God, which ultimately brings establishment in marriage.
The longer your courtship, the better! Don’t be in a rush, but also, it should not be too long. (except either party is in school or travelled) Gen. 24:21-27).
You need to declare your identity. Who are you to your spouse over time so that you can avoid the circumstances and situations that the devil arranges.
You are more than a conqueror; whatsoever is born of God overcomes the world, all arrangements and all circumstances. You must declare your worth and sense of commitment to the relationship and your spouse over time.
Don’t sleep with yourselves before marriage; it is not a substitute for the expression of genuine love. If you do it means you don’t love your intended spouse long enough, otherwise you will not want to take him/her from God’s presence (Gen 3:8)
There is something sex before marriage takes away from every meaningful relationship; it erodes trust and breeds suspicion and infidelity (1John 4:18) Pleasing God should be the focus of every single person, and this should still be your focus after marriage.
By the time you are getting married, you are sure that you are the right choice for each other. You have been able to prove God’s assurance in your hearts . So courtship is that period of conscious preparation among two intended people for the fulfilment of the call of God on their lives in and through marriage. Parental consent is important and necessary in every courtship leading to marriage (Ephesians 6:2-3, Gen 24:58-61).