Women must be open and talk to their children about all issues of life at the appropriate age. (Information given to the child at the wrong age also has its own adverse effects). Proverbs 22:6 (NIV) “Train the child in the way he should go and when he is old he would not turn from it.” We need to train or teach our children holiness, righteousness, chastity and morality amongst other things so that when they are away from us they will still make decisions that will glorify God and make us proud to be their parents.
Mothers must learn to correct children whenever they err. Punishment should be commensurate to the offence. A child should not always “taste” the rod for every offence. Sometimes all that is required is a heart-to-heart discussion with the child to correct the errors. I remember as a child whenever I did something wrong I always preferred to be smacked but my parents rarely did that, they usually sat me down and talked to me and it was more effective because I was always more remorseful after such talks with them. Proverbs 22:15 (NIV) “Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline will drive it far from him.” The rod of discipline in this verse refers to any form of correction or punishment.
Correction shouldn’t be done out of anger or annoyance but love. You correct those you love to prevent them from making the same mistake in the future – the same way God deals with his children.
Another important responsibility is praise. Women should always be full of praise for their children when they do things right. Praise them and make them feel appreciated and important. Do not blow their mistakes out of proportion and undermine their achievements. Once you correct a child let sleeping dogs lie but be their cheerleader when they do things right, this makes them want to do things right more often. Always have time to play and talk with your children. You can have weekly family time when the whole family just enjoys each other’s company without the television or radio on. Or you could have a family outing regularly; you could go out for a meal, a theme park or the beach.
Do something nice that would promote laughter and fun, let your children see your other side, not the busy, stressed and tired side alone. It makes them happy and they learn to appreciate the balance of life.
Above all pray for and with your children. Pray that they would grow up to be what God wants them to be, that they fulfil destiny and affect their generation for Christ. This helps you as the parent to hand the child back to God and takes stress off you.
Let them understand the importance of prayer from a young age. Parenting is one of the most difficult responsibilities we have but with prayer we can and will succeed in Jesus name. Amen.